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Birthday Dialogue

 

dialogueGood morning sun. Goodbye rain and wind that came before the sun. The sense of renewal is ever present on such a day, no matter what age you are celebrating.

There is a big field to play in. Perhaps we begin with facing each other. Here is my birthday poem, with a response from Jack Foley.

 

 

Birthday

fifty-seven knots
back to the threshold
of unknowing
zest
with style
ecstasy
with flair
one eye toward the gyre
whole body traverses
this universe
as big and as tiny
as all other universes
pushes pulls
into out of
forms and proportions
distance is memory
the fire
fueling
the present.

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Birthday
Clara Hsu/ Jack Foley
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fifty-seven knots
            Oh, I remember
back to the threshold
            fifty-seven
of unknowing
            and unknowing
zest
            the “cloud”—
with style
            What’s strange is
ecstasy
            you feel it
with flair
            only sometimes

one eye toward the gyre
            Mostly,
whole body traverses
            you’re whatever age you’ve set your bodymind clock for
this universe
            Desire

as big and as tiny
            remains
as all other universes
            and intellect
pushes pulls
            in the vastness
into out of
            of all you’ve done
forms and proportions
            in more than 70 years
distance is memory
            Distance is memory
the fire
            Fire
fueling
            (that deep friend)
the present.
            blazes

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image by Doc Ross.

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Happy 100

Muni J-L-NMuni’s 100th Birthday. We got free rides today. Hooray!

Dore said they should scroll “Happy Birthday Muni” instead of “Go Giants” or “Go Forty-Niners” on the buses.

There should be birthday cakes and balloons and flowers and champagne.

There should be bands playing at major bus stops.

I guess we’d have to be satisfied with the exhibits on the transit shelters along Market Street.

None of the bus drivers had uttered a word about the special occasion. None of them looked particularly jubilated. Most of the buses had a piece of scrap paper over the fee machine, as if it was broken and we were lucky to get a free ride.

Management!

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TREASURES FROM THE MUNI ARCHIVE at THE SAN FRANCISCO RAILWAY MUSEUM, streetcar.org; Adithya Sambamurthy/The Bay Citizen.

 

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The Art of Gift Giving

What shall I give to my daughter on her birthday? We’re a generation apart. I stopped buying clothes for her when she started middle school. In fact, I had gotten by without giving gifts to my children for holidays and birthdays until they were old enough to figure it out.  I explained, “A gift cannot be a mere symbol. It has to come from the heart. Gift giving should be a pleasurable thing to do. We give when the gift makes you think of the other person, not when there is an expectation.”

But this birthday is different . She has moved to Oregon. I cannot hug and kiss her. Sending her a gift is much more meaningful to me now. It has to represent love.

And what materialistic things contain such power? Homemade goodies? Money? A poem? There is not one thing that can convey the wonder of her birth and the joy of seeing her growing every year. Perhaps the greatest gift is to call her up and say ” I love you”, and it is to be given always.

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All the Sunny Leos

It used to be Gemini who were my friends. Now I am surrounded by Leos. As life took a different turn the people around me also changed. Leos—the sunny, passionate, positive thinking ones—seem to like the watery Pisces fine. Since the end of July I have been celebrating friends’ birthdays.

We celebrated Sacred Grounds reading host Dan Brady’s sixtieth (actual day is tomorrow) with cake and candle.  His bubbly personality certainly livens up the reading. Tonight of all nights he read a poem on turd! For all the hard work he puts in by showing up on Wednesday week after week he gets this poem from me:

 

Dan Brady is arriving
at the big six-O and diving
into moments of insanity
with a tickle of profanity

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Another Birthday?

Night now, but it’s Earth Day tomorrow. As if it is a birthday, the Earth is being recognized and celebrated. Will we be kind to it for at least one day, think about the ground we tread on and the air we breathe, the water that is running from our faucets and the food that we put in our mouths? What will we conserve, recycle, compost? Do we think of these things like gifts, that we may “give back” to show our appreciation?

And would it be just like a birthday, that our attention will turn away to something else the day after?

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Rainy Day Catching Up

Winnie and I get together for major celebrations—birthdays, Christmas, and New Year.  It is hard to believe, and maybe it is pure fantasy on my part ( because she doesn’t have the recollection) that we have been friends since kindergarten.  In any case we have known each other forever, with the kind of friendship that prevails no matter what happens.

We met at the Turkish Kitchen in Berkeley for lunch.  We ordered lachmacun (ground lamb on thin bread crust) and Immam bayildi (stuffed eggplant in olive oil), both came out surprisingly authentic and delicious.  For dessert, a sugary baklava. Winnie had a bag of present for me.

“I just realized that our birth year and our age is the same this year.  (1956, age 56),”  Winnie said.

Numbers!  “Then it is probably a very good year for us,” I said.

We walked out to a heavy down pour.  The first this year.  A good omen.

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A Moroccan in San Francisco

Bari gave me a birthday card.  I opened it.  The inside was blank.

“You didn’t sign it,”  I said.

He didn’t know he was supposed to sign a card.  In Morocco they don’t celebrate birthdays.  There is no such custom of gift-giving, let alone card-giving.

“I’m learning,” he said.

He knew a guy who just arrived from Morocco and went into a restaurant to work.  Within two weeks he was kicked out.

“He doesn’t understand how people think here.  I tell him not to be discouraged.” Bari told me.  He has his share of suffering: discrimination, miscommunications, rejections, etc.  Recently he bought a car, working as a pizza delivery person.

“It’s better.  I feel freer working by myself.”

We had dinner at a Moroccan restaurant.  When we spoke Arabic to the server he replied in English.  There was no interest in making a deeper connection.  He was almost a one-man show, taking orders clearing tables running the cash register.

The food was not impressive.  We both knew what it should taste like.

Bari insisted on paying for dinner.

“Okay,” I said, and thanked him.

 

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A Special Day

Special because Dore offered his creamy oatmeal in the morning.  Special because there was a stream of birthday wishes on Facebook.  Special because Jack Foley took me to one of his favorite haunts (Binh Minh Quan) in Oakland for lunch and prepared a “Clara Box” filled with poetry books.  Special because Vern brought flowers.  Special because Lawrence and his girlfriend Corrine drove two hours (stuck in traffic) from the East Bay to have dinner with me.  Special because Julia wrote a poem:  a poem of memories, of laughter and tears, of growing pains and love.  It’s the most beautiful poem that a mother can have.

Birthday.  What a concept!

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The Secrets of Long Life

Diet. Exercise. An insatiable will to live. Curious and mindful of the body. Master over loneliness. Determination to be self-sufficient. Wake early. Eat raw vegetables. Open the windows for fresh air. Water the plants. Deep breathing. Massage head and face. Eat heartily (especially when friends come to visit, and especially when they bring fish porridge). Laugh. Take naps.  Skype–the best invention for people who are housebound. Relax. Drink tea. Eat Moroccan food (easy for the teeth). Eat cake when it is being offered and blow out the candle if there’s one.  Say thank you.  Shake hands and take hugs. Go to bed.

My father turns 91 today.

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