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The Power Of Influence

While “no” was not my son’s first word, it was certainly his main vocabulary whenever he encountered parental power.  He saw it as a struggle.  I saw it as imparting wisdom.  He did not want my wisdom.

I don’t think you can influence someone if they don’t want to be influenced.  “I’ll break him.”  My ex-husband once said, meaning, making my son submit to whatever it was that we desired at that moment.  But in fact we were the ones who had to break open and humbled before any kind of communication was achieved.

Compromise is not influence.  It is temporary appeasement; useless except to catch a breath.  In the end, I think it is more important to just love.

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The Power of Wishing

Be careful of what you wish for because it might just come true.  When something is realized it does not necessarily contain what you have imagined it to be.  When we wish we have an extremely narrow focus.  What we get comes in a package with dynamics that we might not be prepared for and when that happens, we’re in for a surprise.

Wishing is transmitting a thought, like putting a message in a bottle and throwing it into the ocean.  In the sea of humanity it drifts until someone catches the sight of it.  In this unseen paradigm channels open up and gifts are given.  Am I speaking in tongues?

The infatuation in a new relationship and the expectation of having a perfect child are two examples that come to mind.  Perhaps wishing is a continuous lesson, that what we receive is never of a single dimension, but always in abundance.

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